Man Fined for Hypnotically Stealing a Kiss . . . if only he knew the truth about hypnosis and sex

Part of me feels sorry for this guy but most of me thinks he deserves what he got but the whole premise of the case is based upon a presupposition about hypnosis that is completely and totally wrong and without merit.

A South Korean man was fined by the courts for hypnotizing a girl and stealing a kiss . . . uh, really?  According to Kwon Mee-yoo, writing in the Korea Times(http://www.koreatimes.co.kr/www/news/nation/2009/08/113_49727.html) . . .

"A 32-year-old man was fined for attempting to hypnotize and kiss a woman he met through a matchmaking company. According to the Seoul Central District Court Wednesday, an employee of a psychiatric clinic identified only as Park, met a woman named Lee, 27, who was introduced to him by a matchmaking company. During their first meeting last August, they had dinner, went to karaoke and visited Park's office afterward. When Lee was going to leave after playing a computer game for a while, Park tried to hypnotize her. As Lee flopped down into a chair, Park believed she had fallen under hypnosis and kissed her. However, Lee was not hypnotized, was well aware of the situation, and watched all he did before filing a complaint against him. Park demanded a trial after being fined, insisting that he only pressed his lips against hers and it was not a deep kiss. However, the court found the victim's statement more credible and fined him 3 million won ($2,500)."

Whether or not he was so shy he "only" touched lips with the girl is irrelevant.  Stealing a kiss is stealing a kiss.  Does he think that if he'd slipped his tounge between his lips then the fine would have been worth it?

There are some inherent difficulties with the story beyond Park's obvious incompetence as a hypnotist.  They met through a matchmaking company so an implied romantic situation was there in which one might reasonably expect at least partial escalation into kissie type activities at some point in the evening, especially after she decides to continue the date with him in private.  Who in their right mind takes a date to the office after hours?  Especially if it's not even your office (he's an employee, it doesn't say he is the psychiatrist).  Of course, Lee was NOT asleep . . . if she was in hypnosis she would still be alert and aware of everything he did.  To somehow believe that this whole hypnoseduction failed because she wasn't in hypnosis is silly . . . even in hypnosis, she would have known what was going on.

Sorry, folks . . . despite superstitius beliefs and bad books or movies and really terrible marketing for products of dubious worth . . . you can NOT hypnotize someone into having sex with you . . . unless they have a predisposition toward that sort of thing in the first place.  Hypnotic seduction works the same way as regular seduction, baby steps and incremental gains.  Sure, hypnosis is great to enhance romantic attraction . . . but, suggesting someone fall "asleep" and then jumping their bones isn't going to work . . . I know, those cheesy porn videos are all over the internet where the "doctor" (or his assistant) seems to do just that, but, those are porn actresses pretending to be hypnotized – no genuine hypnorape occurs and usually no genuine hypnosis.  The only hypnotrick to that is in the story, not the substance of hypnosis (there are folks who've argued with me that the hypnotrick videos are real but they are very wrong and the makers of those videos are creating works of fiction for entertainment and unlike some purveyors of pointless porn, they are at least honest enough to say so in the disclaimer on the site's front page . . . btw, it's NSFW).

If someone is hypnotized and has sex with the hypnotist, it is NOT rape . . . it is not a form of coercion.  Their judgement might be clouded, but that same argument can be made for folks whose judgement is clouded when they have a one-night-stand.  Hypnosis alone is not a sufficient excuse to justify the "buyer's regret" so to speak.  Formal hypnosis is a consensual state.  Sure, in an informal setting you can enhance certain emotional responses but hypnosis alone is never enough to get a complete stranger to have sex with you.  It makes great copy for newspapers or fodder for bad cinema or nineteenth century novels, but it ain't enough (sure, it CAN and DOES happen, but it ain't just the hypnosis or even the hypnotist who is at fault in such cases . . . situations are never quite so black and white in such cases).

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All the best,
Brian

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