A member of the Hypnosis Technique Exchange at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/HypnosisTechniqueExchange has asked about suggestions for suggestions for a particular sort of trance session of an erotic nature with his fiancee intended to help her past some blocks in a consensual way. What follows is the thread, at least my participation in it. The original query is as follows:
Letting someone else do the "therapy" stuff is reasonable.
However, as to what she wants, use her words. Perhaps, if she hasn't been hypnotized before, then start slow and build with an effective induction (I know you know several) and then slip into a progressive relaxation deepener that very gentle morphs into something along the lines of the erotic massage imagery, slowly building in sensations of sensuality and as you build that response, use an affirmation along the lines of "as the sensations begin to increase, surrender to the feelings and just allow yourself to accept and experience and enjoy these sensations, let yourself go and surrender into the moment, and allow yourself to experience and accept sex in your life and truly enjoy it and let yourself go mentally and physically as those sensations begin to grow more powerfully wonderful" (based upon her phrasing) and deepen the trance and the sensations. Depending upon how comfortable she is with the trance and the experience, you can intensify and go all the way to orgasm or just concentrate on the arousal state and anchoring pleasure to appropriate sexual experience in her life.
You can also do a simple six-step-reframe, change hands, sigil, or 3D mind type pattern to help get past the emotional roadblocks.
Posthypnotics for allowing her to reinduce the experience are very valuable.
Our correspondent replies:
Oh, yes, indeed. In fact, I would imagine it would be difficult not to imagine some rather intriguing possibilities along those lines. 🙂
I know you know this because I've met you personally and have corresponded enough with you and seen the type of sensibility in language you use, but will repeat it for the benefit of the gallery, comfort is very important, with a playful and consensual giving spirit and she will find herself enjoying not only this sort of experience but much more in no time. It's healthy, it's fun, and it's very satisfying.
You may also wish to consider a blind imagery exercise. This is where you set up a guided imagery type experience except that it is content-free. Suggest that she allow herself to go into fantasy situation and just let go into a positive experience that her unconscious will allow her to experience. You don't suggest the situation and neither does she, she just allows her unconscious to create a positive sensual experience. Your job is to continue to deepen the experience with suggestions of sensory input and experience while maintaining the trance (folks who've taken my experiential hypnosis courses are familiar with the sensory deepening pattern of enhancing sensory experience and imaginative involvement through a process of suggesting sensations involving each sense in a progressively compounded way). If she is comfortable, you can do number counts to enhance arousal and intensify the sensations and the like – all the way or within whatever her comfort zones are.
If you haven't installed a "happy finger" or similar trance device for her, then consider guiding her through the process. The installation does not need to be erotic in order for it to have fallout benefit for her as she experiments with letting go and surrendering into erotic experience (trance-based and otherwise). Once you've mastered one positive emotional state, it is so much easier to experiment with and experience others. Along the same lines, the "drinking finger" process is a nice one to play with – even non-drinkers or non-drug-users can respond wonderfully to the process and get a lot of good mileage out of it. Folks unfamiliar with those processes can see my webpages at http://www.briandavidphillips.com for DVDs in the shop or courses that incorporate this material.
Another respondent writes:
Possibly. Or, she's just one of those folks who are naturally ticklish and suggestible in regard to the sensation (the latter making the hypnotist's job so much easier).
Of course, as in all hypnosis or therapeutic contexts, the hypnotist would have to be sensitive to such possibilities without suggesting them, especially given the context of the session he is discussing and his finacee's previous experiences in terms of erotic contexts. However, since his trance modus operandi is to be focusing on positive experiences and within her comfort zone, he should be sensitive enough to pick up anything that pops up. He can also simply ask.
One need not use the tickling as a stepping stone into the erotic experience (some folks do, certainly there are enough erotic tickling video sites out there, including a few that use hypnosis). Her skin sensitivity is a clue that you will probably find suggestion of sensual experience to be sufficient to create some rather nice effects and sensations for her . . . within her comfort zone and within her erotic response sets in order to allow her to surrender to the experience and move forward into the sort of accepting erotic life she wishes to explore (as per her intention for the session(s)).
Of course, as with all hypnosis, trance training is continual.
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