Replying to Jake’s incredibly insightful comments to Are "F Buddies" Better than Marriage?. Evidently being happily married is a crime as is being a gamer or having cats. Thanks for pointing these things out to me, Jake. Who woulda thunk it?

Jake, I’ve been married eleven years and so far my opinions haven’t changed. I’ll be happy to wait another ten as you suggest but I don’t see any indications that anything’s going to change anytime soon.

There are many ways to be happy in a relationship and to maintain longterm marital success. If you couldn’t manage it, fine . . . that doesn’t mean others can’t. Perhaps you could read other posts on this blog and you might get a clue as to what some of those techniques might be. In other words, breathe in, breathe out, close your eyes, and just let that wonderful realization come over you that . . . you suck, I don’t, now fuck off.

My first impulse was to delete your obviously misogynistic idiotic nonsense and anti-gamer bias and evidently intense hatred of cats here but then decided I’d leave it up in an effort to fairly demonstrate what an enourmous fool you truly are. You’ve never met anyone who has been happily married? Don’t get out much, do you? Just because you are so dysfunctional that you can’t be happy in a longterm relationship doesn’t mean that no one can. No, my wife is not Taiwanese. However, she is from Hong Kong so I guess that would somehow fit your twisted fucked up concepts about who can or cannot be happy. Yes, I am a gamer. However, I still managed to get laid quite a bit, well more than most (statistically speaking, if the major studies on human sexuality are correct). Of course, I probably don’t get laid as much as you as I don’t count masturbation like you. No, I don’t own any cats . . . my wife and daughter do . . . I love them so I live with cats. And . . . note . . . I did NOT say every single moment of married life is eternal bliss, but I did say it can be a wonderful experience and that the folks, like you, who can’t be happy being married SHOULD NOT GET MARRIED. Simple. Unlike you, I can understand and appreciate that there are people out there who can be happy in ways that are not appropriate for me without attacking them. If you are so dysfunctional that you can never be happy with another human being, fine, live your life happily alone . . . but don’t piss on my parade because you’re broken. As you obviously have no common ground with me, what the fuck are you doing here? I may be quite happy to be married and a gamer . . . really I am . . . and you may believe such people are losers, your misguided opinion, particularly since a very large portion of the population can not be described as gamer given the cultural shifts of the last fifteen years . . . but, if that’s the case, what does it say about your own miserable life if you actually have to spend time on my site and the best you can do with that time is to make snide comments on my opinions which shouldn’t matter to you anyway? Next time you want to find a loser, go look in the mirror.

Now, isn’t that nice? We’ve pushed each other’s buttons. Doesn’t that make us feel all manly and alpha male? Not.

However, you do demonstrate a couple good points. One being that if you can’t be happy being married then you should choose not to be married in the first place. Two being that there are different approaches to life. Go check the posts on Phillips’ Law . . . if this post offended you, that one’s going to cause you to go into seizures. I do believe that some folks will be happy being married, in an appropriate context, and others won’t be. You can’t be happy being married either because you have not been able to find a balanced relationship . . . either because in your entire life you have not been able to find any women with which to form a compatible longterm healthy relationship due to faults in the women or in the concepts and mere structure of marriage in all of its varied forms or because of some dysfunction within yourself due to an inability to communicate, commit, or care. If you really are so dysfunctional, you can choose to remain that way . . . if you’re truly happy on this road to eventual loneliness as you grow older, then stay this way . . . or, you can make an effort to find out exactly where the problem lies and FIX it.

It doent’s matter to me. It’s YOUR life. My question is . . . why does whether or not I’m really happy matter to you?

However, if you or anyone else decides to make an effort to move on . . . I would strongly suggest that an appropriate mentor for relationship building would be someone who has managed to have a healthy happy relationship for the longterm.

Now, why don’t you take a long look at the fake email address you supplied with your post and really think about the meaning of those words.