On Forumosa, there is currently a discussion that asks the question are "F buddies" a better option than marriage? . . .

Taiwanese girls are very much into marriage as a way of getting security and safety. Try argue with them… Better keep a good explanation up your sleeve in order to keep them off… "I don’t feel like marrying", doesn’t do the trick.

It’s not just a matter of security and safety. However, the "I don’t feel like marrying" gambit does do the trick with some women . . . albeit, not as many as "let’s get married" works with. One problem with fuck buddy is that it can have some negative effects in the long run (even a friend with benefits will be healthier as a relationship, in the long run but even that will wear thin as one person invariably becomes attached and wishes for the original boundaries of the relationship to move forward).

Either way, from the way so many folks write about this stuff of late, I guess I missed the boat . . . see an earlier post on the subject . . . in my day, we didn’t have fuck buddies or friends with benefits, we just had sex . . . worked out that way. Then we got married and settled down and somehow managed to either be happy or not.

The "marriage sucks" sentiments are only shared by folks who either have never really wanted to be married and so cannot yet imagine having the desire to commit to another person in that way or by those who didn’t do it right when they had the chance. Marriage is not about being trapped, it’s about celebrating a life shared. If you really think it will destroy your life then DON’T GET MARRIED. Simple.

– Brian