More on my post regarding Memory Replacement Therapy and Transgenderism . . . which I’ve been sidebarring as folks reply.

It’s been suggested that, “Perhaps the ethical fetish hypnotist would put disclaimers on their site?” This is not a bad idea . . . the “for recreational purposes only” disclaimer would protect them. However, from the context of some of the discussion, it is not so much a disclaimer . . . which informs the public so as to provide legal protection for the hypnotist in case the process is misunderstood or misused . . . rather, folks are more likely after information and consumer education which is a bit different.

One correspondent said that without these, the folks who do fetish transgendered hypnosis “could seriously end up with dead people on their hands.” Culpability is not so clear here but I received a private response to my posts on this topic that had only one line:

“Thanks, you’ve all but sealed my suicide….”

My first response to this was to feel sad for the person who sent it in that he has built up a desire and need for this fantasy to become real to the point that any evidence to the contrary, rather than pointing him into a more positive and healthy line of inquiry, puts him into a funk. He wishes me to feel responsibility for his possible suicide. However, I don’t. I feel sadness for him, and pity, but not responsibility.

Of course, if the person were to do something so futile or wasteful as that . . . and he won’t . . . but if he were to, I would not be responsible for it. People who commit suicide are responsible for their own actions.

The implication seems to be that because of I have pointed out several factors in my post . . . then I would be responsible for the person’s failure to adapt. This is not the case.

Transgendered individuals are certainly folks with very very unique and oftentimes difficult life adjustments . . . but there are plenty of examples of folks who have been able to make the adaptation.

The trick is to look forward and to find out what exactly it is you really want out of all this stuff. Some wouldbe-TGs have difficulty with the acceptance of their biological sexuality and therefore seek to escape it by adopting a new identity . . . this is not transgenderism, it’s sex-identity-rebellion. Not the same monkey. Those individuals would do better in a therapy process that helps them learn who they really are and how to accept and love themselves and get on with their lives in a healthy and positive way.

Other wouldbe-TGs are in fact TG and need to learn to deal with their past and move on into a healthy and positive future.

Of course, the therapist has no business making the call on which of these or many other variations a person may or may not be . . . neither should the client at the get-go . . . do the process, do the work, and discover and then get on with it.

Stop-gap approaches won’t last. The client needs to do the work and be willing to follow-through as well.

One correspondent wonders that “as common as all these websites are with stuff about feminization hypnosis, I can’t help but suspect that some GD or TG people are on there.” First, the sites are not really all that common. They are easy to find when you know how to look for them and I can point you to perhaps ten of them, but that is a false impression. Second, of course, there are a number of these feminization sites that are run by transgendered folks, post and pre and non operative. Just recently on one of the lists where these sorts of fantasies are regularly discussed, a TG “non-operative” woman posted an add for her products for men who have the fantasy of being feminized (which I believe is very different from men who believe they truly are women – fetish versus transgendered). Often they are treated as the same which I believe is problematic. Interestingly, I know of at least two hypnotists active in the hetero hypnotic fantasy – female domination and male submission fetish market – who are in fact biological males who take on a female persona for their work with male clients wishing to surrender to a female hypnotist (one is pre-operative while the other is non-operative). Their clients are unaware of their gender status.

In many cases, individuals who are facing trans-gendered issues will seek out the fetish and fantasy approaches either because they have not been happy with their therapy (particularly when the therapist refuses to follow-through into their unhealthy and unrealistic fantasy of “hypnotize me so I believe I have always been a woman and that I am a biological woman and don’t see my penis anymore but believe I have a vagina” or the like or for other reasons or they seek out the fetish and fantasy sites to reinforce their fantasy without a need to face the reality of transgenderism or they are merely avoiding the issues that therapy might force them to face and deal with.

Regardless, transgendered or fetishist, the choices of how to approach life are still the responsibility of the person. Suicide is certainly one approach but it is incredibly wasteful and intensifies the pain of a person’s life . . . it is not an escape . . . and it certainly isn’t the final or only solution . . . just because you have not found a solution that works, it does not mean there isn’t one . . . if what you’re doing doesn’t work, then stop doing that and immediately start doing something else, anything else, and see how that works . . . repeat ad finitim until you hit the thing that works.

Of course . . . all this is in my opinion and is posted for educational purposes only . . . any misuse misapprehension or any other use of this material is your own responsibility.

All the best,
Brian