So many folks assume that as you get older, your sex drive dwindles until it finally just lets go and is done with it. Certainly, I know I’ve heard that from folks who thought they were the ones who knew what they were talking about but really they were talking about their own personal experience and assuming that applied to most folks or they were just parroting what they had from others and assume that was the expected norm regardless of personal experience.
Well . . . contrary to popular belief, for a whole lot of folks the sex drive does not dwindle with age and one doesn’t have to resign oneself to low libido and less expectation of physical pleasure. Sure, you may not be making the beast with two backs three times a day every day of the week as you did in your mid twenties (I miss those days sometimes) but that’s usually due to having a lot more going on in your life or less time than anything else and certainly the novelty factor comes into play a bit . . . but . . . the actual sex drive is still there.
Recent studies have shown some surprises in that folks over 50 are not only continuing to desire sex and have sex they are doing so in rates previously unguessed at simply because everyone has pretty much always expected sex drives to fail over time . . . the expression “use it or lose it” does apply . . . if your circumstances are such that you no longer have access to regular sex your drive may diminish . . . but . . . over fifities are now using dating sites and more:
Post 50 singles want sex, and they want it often. Given that people over 50 are the biggest growing group in online dating and the most likely to use match-making sites, it’s no surprise that sex is on their minds. In fact, a new survey by dating site OurTime.com found that 97 percent of midlifers consider regular sex important for their romantic relationships. And single post 50s aren’t seeking sheet action every now and then — 65 percent of those surveyed want it two to three times a week.
Of course, single boomers aren’t the only ones getting down. In fact, this week on “The Today Show” (see the video in the slideshow below), Dr. Pepper Schwartz — AARP’s sex and relationship ambassador — revealed that married people have the most sex. And guess who’s loving sex more later in life? Women. “After 70 if you look at men and women, women are more satisfied than men,” Schwartz told “The Today Show.”
Married or not, post 50s seeking active sex lives may have concerns about engaging in frequent sex because of medical issues, such as heart disease and high blood pressure. But recent advice from the American Heart Association on heart conditions and sex may provide midlifers with greater clarity.
Of course, regardless of your age, you can take things into even more personal areas of eXploration.
Now, I do offer hypnotherapy for individuals or couples who wish to address issues related to sexuality and I’ve taught a number of workshops for couples in Taiwan, Hong Kong, India, the United States, and elsewhere. In fact, if you would like to attend or even sponsor one of our Eroticatrance and related events, drop Lorraine a line via the contact on our webpages for details.
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